Most of the people who have just lost their loved one or someone who is very important in their lives are commonly experiencing the five stages of loss or mourning and grief, with the first stage as denial and isolation, then anger, bargaining, depression, and the fifth and last stage is acceptance. The five basic stages of mourning or loss and grief does not happen to the people in an orderly manner, and such also occurs to the people who have learned about their terminal illness. The people often isolate themselves from other people in order for them to feel numb from the hurtful truth, and being in the state of denial is actually considered as a human being’s common defense mechanism. Anger is also one of the stages for the people would often blame and feel resentment towards the loved ones who have left them for causing them pain and for leaving them; while bargaining, on the other hand, is when the people would often produce if only statements and such is a weaker line of defense that can protect them from the painful and heartbreaking reality. There are basically two kinds of depression stage, such as a reaction to any practical implications that may be related to their loss, and reaction that is subtle and private. Coping up with the fact and the reality that the people who are very important in their lives is actually included in the final stage, called as acceptance.
Coping up with the fact or the reality that their loved one has already passed away may involve their acts of understanding that their beloved is already out of pain and in a much better place, and the right or the best way to cope up with this is to remember and remind themselves that the memories that they’ve shared before will forever be engraved on their minds. The basic guide on how to help the people in dealing the death of their loved ones in the right and proper way or method are to plan a proper celebration of the loved ones’ life when he or she is still alive, for doing such activities can help you make yourself busy; to always remember that there is no rulebook on how a person or individual should deal with their loved ones’ death; and to stop and prevent yourself from judging one’s self, especially when you get to accept this reality immediately for each of us may respond differently. Making or keeping yourself busy is actually considered as an effective way of coping up with the loss of your loved one, and the right way to do that is to decide and choose what to do on their memorial services.